Parents only want what is best for their children, but ...




Their willingness to be the best, the happiest, and the most loved lead to some behaviors that may actually have negative consequences in the long run.
 
Psychologist Ma. Lourdes 'Honey' Carandang, a member of the MLAC Institute, who says, explains how some of the most harmless behaviors can ruin children's lives in the future by altering their ability to deal with some feelings or with some situations, such as rejections, for example. This is what happens when a parent compares the child to a colleague at school: "This is a very subtle kind of bullying." She says that this habit, even when it aims to stimulate competitiveness, "is insulting" and can hurt the child's feelings, making her sad.
 

Parents only want what is best for their children, but ...
 
Although it is common and even affectionate to give a nickname to the child, such as 'cootie' or 'candy', the truth is that abusing this type of nicknames or saying them for years can also cause some kind of resentment, which stresses the emotional impact (especially with regard to shame and sadness) that the way parents talk to each other has in the child. In practice, arguments, insults and even disdain for one another have long-term consequences on the child's life because parents are seen as an example.
 
No matter how much parents deny it, the specialist also reveals that some can not hide the favoritism of one child in relation to the other, a tendency that is becoming more and more notorious as the child grows and that can be able to give result to episodes of revolt or irritation.
 

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